Cultivating Your Children to be Kings and Queens Starts with You
Listen, like most major life events- motherhood gets real after you get home!
You don’t realize you’re grieving. Most people only consider grief for the loss of a person. The truth is, we grieve after any loss- including in the aftermath of giving birth to your first child. To name a few- you can grieve:
- The life you had before becoming responsible for another human
- The life you thought you would have
- Your current circumstances surrounding raising your child- especially when they’re unfavorable or not what you thought they would be.
As our body is healing from the often traumatic experience of labor and delivery- we must also be intentional with caring for ourselves in all ways, always.
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When only my mom and I knew I was pregnant, I attended my friend’s baby shower. She was a teen mom, too. Her parents’ friends showered her with countless gifts! Several Diaper Genies, diapers, baby clothes- you name it, she probably received it! A different friend from childhood gave me my first motherhood gift before my son’s baby shower. It was a pack of name brand diapers.
So at my son’s baby shower, I expected all gifts to be for him. And what I have noticed at all baby showers since, is that everyone focuses on the unborn baby!
Because of this, I make it a point to give gifts that support the mother such as:
♥ Comfortable robe and Chapstick for the hospital
♥ Lavender-scented care products so her and baby can relax and sleep well
♥ Nursing supplies
♥ Most of all, my listening ear and emotional support
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While intentionally raising my children to become two Kings and a Queen in God’s Kingdom, I was determined to:
1. Lead by Jesus’ example
2. Find the best options for them
3. Make the best choices for them!
I refused to let circumstances or culture determine my “true North'', when God’s Word was my compass!
Three major things I did (and still do) to set my children apart are having a personal relationship with Jesus, exposure, and community.
These look like:
♥ Taking them to libraries from birth to access the wealth of knowledge in books:
I taught them, “Readers make leaders. Everything you want to know is in a book.” I rented children’s educational and entertainment videos as reinforcements. My babies also enjoyed countless community events at several different libraries. And later from Toni Morrison- “If there's a book you really want to read, but it hasn't been written yet, then you must write it”. So I became a published author!
♥ Speaking to them with affirming language and positive direction:
Calling out the seeds of greatness within my children and affirming them with truth is life-giving to me! I am my children’s first encourager, fan, and loudest cheerleader! Yes, I am the mom who’s always screaming, “That’s my baby!” “You got this!” “I knew you could do it!”
Seeking different ways to say, “I love you” and “I’m proud of you” is part of my being. I was saying these things to myself inside just as much as I was externally to my children. This is how I know it starts with you. Because when I didn’t hear any cheering for me in my challenges and struggles, I knew Jesus was reminding me that He loves me and is proud of me!
♥ Requiring them to speak to adults with respect and use manners:
This also helped them to learn how to use their voice, instead of me speaking for them.
♥ Not allowing influences or things that weren’t age, mentally, emotionally, or lifestyle appropriate:
Being fully aware that my children would be exposed to external influences, people, and things of the world- I made the conscious choice to create a safe affirming home for them with me, wherever we were. This was especially difficult when protecting them from things like violent or sexually explicit music, cell phones, and social media were met with resistance and rebellion.
♥ Making them volunteer to learn Servant Leadership:
I also taught them how to be proactive and take initiative when helping others. For example, if you see someone struggling and you’re able to help, be willing and offer to assist them!
♥ Going beyond “driving by” a wealthy community:
As a teenager, Pastor Kee would teach us how to believe God for things by faith. When I started to believe my children and I could have more (wealth in the form of money), I did some things that seemed radical at the time. I took them to the wealthy neighborhoods’ events to experience how prosperous communities entertained and enjoyed their families.
We didn’t just drive by mansions; we went to their Open Houses! This demystified them for all of us! And surprise- there were some that we didn’t like or weren’t impressed with!
♥ Surrounding them with community:
I embraced people God placed in our lives inside and outside of the physical church. My therapist, God rest her soul, taught me how to navigate accepting the fact that there would be some not-so-great relationships in my children’s lives, specifically when it came to the paternal side of their family. She explained that children need to be exposed to different kinds of people- including those who parent differently than I do. This allowed my children’s “village” to grow deep and wide.
Continue reading part 3/3 here...
Did you know, adults need villages, too?
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